And if all that fails, wash your own dishes
It seems you have inherited and passed on a gene that compels cleanliness. We learn to rely on ourselves for many things, including keeping our nests tidy. We are often disappointed by others, but have become accustomed to taking on the yolk, and bearing the load; a load which most others don’t even notice needs to be taken on. We are freaks who annoy people and make them feel judged and inadequate, and that may be why we are not often visited or invited.